Day 116
Prompt: Would you change your name for your spouse?
Hi Nigel,
‘Hiya! I don’t get the need to do that or expectation for them to do that?’
Nor do I
‘In this day and age, we are all individuals and should respect that’
I get your point.
‘No one becomes property on getting married so why tag yourself with their name or them with yours?’
It dates back to when women were considered little more than goods and chattel belonging either to their father or husband. Frankly, now it’s bullshit
‘I take it Gabbie didn’t change her name?’
Thankfully not as that is a major deal breaker for me – either way
‘Woe! I think I can understand why it would be’
If you are lucky enough to find that beautiful life balance in love, you don’t suddenly possess someone or they you. You belong with them and they are with you, but you don’t own each other
‘There are far more interesting ways of playing that game anyway’
Absolutely, and none that insist on denying individuality and identity
‘And being in love doesn’t mean changing identity – who would demand that’
I don’t know, it isn’t me
‘It is such an old-fashioned way of looking at love and marriage’
Changing your name doesn’t make you less or more someone’s spouse
‘It sounds like losing identity to me as you go from being yourself to Mr or Mrs Marriedperson’
I suppose some would want that. The reality is that changing your name doesn’t make you more committed
‘That’s what wedding rings are for, isn’t it?’
No, a ring doesn’t make you married either
‘It’s symbolic then’
Yes
‘So marriage is more about the commitment between the couple, the vows and promises they make to each other’
Absolutely, mate. No ring, no changing name, can replace that – it’s the love and commitment that matter
‘And the symbolic is just decoration’
Yes
‘And that’s why you say you are married because of the vows you made’
Yes, and it will always be that way. See you tomorrow, Nige
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