Just Be You

Inspired by and written for Sadje’s Sunday Poser – thank you, Sadje

It all depends on what or who you are looking good for really. If it is for your own self-esteem, then do it. It is not vanity to make oneself feel good, it is healthy and good for one’s mental health. That I would see as a necessity. Comfort is also important, so it is a case of finding that happy space where looking good and comfort gel together. This is self-care not vanity. If self-care is vanity, then be vain as the alternative is not healthy

Now if you are made to feel you must dress to impress someone then I’d question if that person is interested in you or the clothes you are wearing. If they are interested in you, then they won’t care what you are wearing if you feel comfortable and good about yourself. We are not lifeless mannequins we are human beings. Never dress to impress anyone if they are truly interested in you, they won’t care if you are in your favourite old jeans or dressed up in high fashion. Narcissistic toxic people try and make you be about them in how you speak, act, and dress – it is not healthy, it is not ever going to be a good relationship – get out of there, get out of there quick